My Happiness Project-Rules To Live By

My Happiness Project-Rules To Live By

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In my journey to make myself happier, I read Gretchen Rubin’s book The Happiness Project (Revised Edition): Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun.  This book inspired me to do my own happiness project which I am calling “A New Ending”  This is the second step in my project-“Rules To Live By.”  If you would like to read about my first step, themes, check it out here.

After I created my themes, I decided to move onto my Rules To Live By. These rules are things that will help me get through my project.  These rules are one that I want live by, but whether I keep them or not is another question!!

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It can be scary to change something that is so familiar to us, but it will be worth it!

How To Make the “Rules To Live By”

When making the Rules To Live By, you will want to focus on things that you want live by but are also attainable. This list should be broad enough that it can apply to many situations. Since this list will be pushing you when times get tough, you will need the rules to keep you going.  Take some time to make up these rules, but I found when I got going, they just kept coming.  I have a feeling as though I will probably be adding to these rules as I start my journey!


My Rules:

  1. Who cares what other people think-95% of the time
  2. Money can only help achieve material happiness-if you have the money
  3. A hug can help most sour moods
  4. Silence is golden
  5. My feelings DO matter
  6. Take a picture
  7. Enjoy the present
  8. Take a deep breath…then another
  9. You do not need to control everything
  10. Life is not meant to be perfect
  11. If it doesn’t feel right it probably isn’t
  12. Less is more

Some of my rules are very specific, but most of them can be applied to many situations.

So, go ahead and start thinking about your own rules, which one do you feel most strongly about?

~Jessi

Check out my next post for my happiness project here!

 

 

 

My Own Happiness Project-Themes

My Own Happiness Project-Themes

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Every few years I find myself going through a rut in my life where something(or many things) need to change.  The last time I went through this, I felt as though I was going through a mid-life crisis.  (If you want to check that out, I talk about that here.)  When going through these ruts, I find myself always wondering if I am happy and what I am doing to be happy?  When I start doing this refection, I find that I am coming up short on what I consider being happy.  Then comes the part where I need to do some digging, what am I doing that is perhaps causing my unhappiness?  What leads me to happiness?  What things could I do to change it?  These are deep questions that take some time to ponder.  During this time of when I was thinking(this last time), I started reading books of others journeys to happiness. My two favorite books have been(click on for more info):

Both books have helped me self-reflect and make a change for the better.  Many years ago Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman’s Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia was very inspirational as I was needing a drastic change in my life.  Currently, I need a change, but not as big of one that was needed many years ago.  The change I needed now is more of a lifestyle change.  After reading The Happiness Project (Revised Edition): Or, Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun. I knew it was something I wanted to do not only for myself but everyone around me.

What Next?

After deciding to pursue my own Happiness Project, I needed to come up with a name for it-something to make it my own. I had a name immediately and it was quite obvious.  “A New Ending”  would be the name of this new project of making a lifestyle change.

The next important step was picking out my theme and goals for every month.  In the Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin works on a new theme every month with “bite-sized” resolutions.  I personally think this is why I resonated with this book so much because I can do that!  If it isn’t working after a month, I do not need to do it anymore, but at least I tried it.

My 12 Themes were:

  1. Gain My Sanity Back
  2. Learning To Be Better With Money
  3. Love My Significant Other More
  4. Work-Focus On Me
  5. Steps To Be a Better Mom
  6. Don’t Take Myself So Seriously
  7. Be a Better Friend
  8. What Religion and Spirituality Means To Me
  9. Do Something I Love
  10. Take An Interest In Others Around Me
  11. Have an Attitude Others Want
  12. Reflect

    Happiness Project-A New Ending
    My Partial List

Setting Up a Plan

Now that I had set my themes, I knew some resolutions that I wanted to complete in some months, so I wrote them down under the appropriate title. Overall, I did not want to put down too many resolutions so I had room for “growth” for my everchanging life!

After all this thinking about my themes for each month, it was was time for a mental break.  I knew it was important to take a mini break to let myself reflect on my ideas so I did not feel so overwhelmed.

Then it was on to the next step, the “Rules To Live By.”

Stay tuned…

~Jessi